Thursday, December 12, 2019

Conspiracy theory about little ol' me

Yesterday I was contacted through Facebook by my friend, Sister Renee.  She wanted me to know that some concerned citizen out there thinks I've been disappeared.  Here is the All Points Bulletin sent out for Anna Valerious:

"Anna Valerious of Narcissists Suck on Blogger, excellent blog we have promoted for years. We have been waiting on the "Internet Crimes Unit" for years now, so this is publicly posted out of concern. The "Internet Crime Unit" hasn't done us one bit of discernible good. On the contrary, our pages are hijacked, redirected, hacked up, etc. So, maybe someone is aware of some effective law enforcement somewhere because we sure as hell haven't been able to find any here. - KC3"

Then they posted a nicely made banner with this text at the bottom"

"Did those who call good evil and evil good, force this excellent blog master we (DoNM SoNM) have all learned so much from, into revealing her identity on her blog, her pen name for the perpetrators she so eloquently and comprehensibly exposed on her blog to pursue liability. "

I would post the banner in this post, but it messes up my formatting.  

Okay, here is the list of concerns as I read it:  
1)  My blog has been possibly hijacked, redirected or hacked up.
2)  My identity has been revealed by force...
3)  For the purpose of litigation by those I have blogged about.  

First of all, my sincere thanks for the compliments on my blog.  I recognize that the concern for my well being is kindly meant.  My post here today is my sincere effort to allay all these concerns.  I'm still alive and well.  No one in my family has ever found my blog.  No one has ever tried to sue me.  My blog is still in my full control and hasn't been hijacked.  No one who doesn't have control of the blog can post on it.  So, concerned citizens, please know that you need have no worry on my account.  

I blogged intensively for a little over three years.  I more or less retired the blog in 2009.  I posted a number of times after I stopped blogging with any regularity.  My life has changed dramatically in the last six years.  Among those changes I started working and am very busy.  My family of origin isn't causing any problems for me.  I'm still happily married to my loving husband.  I have three cats and my daughter has been grown and living on her own for a number of years now.  She lives nearby, and we see her often.  I don't dwell on the subject of narcissism because I have no narcissists in my life!  All were served eviction notices and peace reigns.  

This blog is still moderated by ME.  Not nearly as many comments come through, but any that do must still be approved by me.  If someone had asked about me in a comment, I could have answered their concerns via the blog long ago since I do see all comments.  Keep that in mind for the future.  

Wishing everyone a happy narcissist-free life!  


tylerchill said...

What’s the internet without a conspiracy theory or two?

While mine too have long been evicted But I still reread this blog for validation if nothing else.

More importantly I’ve linked you to other victims I’ve randomly met over the years with the simple message that “you are not alone.”

Blink twice if you’re held for ransom.

Anonymous said...

Great to hear from you! And congratulations on your happy narcissist-free life! I, too, evicted my narcissist (sister) from my life. First in 2013 went no-contact until last summer when her son/my nephew graduated from high school and she wanted us to "try" again. The thing that sucked me into her NPD web, unknowingly, was her statement to me in a text "I've learned to be more empathetic". I'm like, gosh, that word has NEVER come out of her mouth - this could be a real turning point! I was a fool. A narcissist NEVER "gets better" and nothing had changed. I am once again no-contact and have accepted that this will be for the rest of our lives. I'm at peace with it. My best to you...
A fellow happy narcissist-free person

Anna Valerious said...

Hey, Tylerchill. Good to see ya. Thank you for spreading the word about the blog when you've seen a need for it. Knowing you're not alone is a real gift!

No blinky. I'm free and ransomless.

Anna Valerious said...

Hi Unknown,

Glad you're here. Congrats on figuring out the truth of your sister. Life is too short to waste time on N drama.

RC Cola said...

Hello Anna,

I stumbled upon your blog a few years ago just as you described one does when bamboozled by chaotic behavior that cannot be explained. At around the same time, I came across a Buddist saying that goes "When you find no solution to a problem, it's probably not a problem to be solved, but rather a truth to be accepted". This really resonated with me as I kept ruminating on how things could be fixed so everyone would get along. I had to face the truth, that things would never be fixed, they would go on as they always had and if left that way would destroy my marriage and family. I had to face the truth that my mother is pretty far on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum, that she is a covert and malignant narcissist.

I cannot tell you how much your blog helped me. I had zero knowledge of what Narcissistic Personality Disorder was prior to reading your blog. I did seek therapy as well. Your blog gave me the strength to do so even after I decided "no contact" was the only solution. Therapy validated my assessment of the situation. Another quote I've found to be true is "One of the hardest thing you will ever have to do is to grieve the loss of a person who is still alive". I will say this, as more time has passed since "no contact" was imposed, the better my life and the life of my family has become. Never give up hope. Thank you so much for pouring your heart out in this blog and verbalizing with impeccable accuracy something so difficult to describe.

I wish all the best to you and your family.

RC Cola

Trapped Bird said...

I've been reading your blog off and on for years. You've helped me cope and learn about NPD. I'm glad everything is doing well for you. we're still dealing with our NMom and trying to keep certain boundaries because we're not able to go no contact.

It's very difficult because of the manipulation games N's play and the boundaries they keep breaking; even to the point of getting violent on family members. The Covid-19 pandemic didn't help any either.

Once again, thanks for shining a light on these evil people. I probably honestly would be dead if it wasn't for me happening across your blog.