Saturday, March 10, 2007

"Hell Demon School"

I have mentioned before that I am a member of a support/discussion group for Adult Children of Narcissists. While this is a very diverse group in terms of religious backgrounds, periodically spiritual questions come up and there is surprising unanimity on the subject of whether or not evil exists and an openness to the idea that there is a spiritual realm where a spirit of evil exists.

It seems inevitable that one's thinking turns to spiritual themes when dealing with narcissists because narcissism confronts you with the age old concept of good vs. evil. If you been raised by a narcissist you've been confronted with the banal face of evil. When the face of evil is worn by mom or dad it complicates things immensely. It becomes impossible to dismiss the realness of evil when you've seen it, smelled it, tasted it, felt it. Since society, under the influence of pop psychology, doesn't believe that everyday evil exists, our persistence in believing it does exist in spite of societal opposition is a testament to our tangible experience with it.

When attempting to explain concepts that deal with spirit, those things that pertain to our souls, we tend to end up using religious symbols and language. For many, that means their thoughts turn to Biblical passages that have stuck in their minds through the years. The Bible not only addresses the reality of good vs. evil, it clearly defines what good is and what evil is. It also stresses that there is a spirit of evil which is personified. The original rebel. Lucifer (Light Bearer) turned Satan (Adversary).

Someone in the ACON group referenced Ephesians 6:12 a few days ago. This person isn't a Christian, but remembered the reference from a casual acquaintance with the Bible in their youth. Eph 6:11-12 NKJV goes like this:

Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.

The writer of this Biblical letter, Paul, is stating that, yes, there is evil in the world, but when you see evil people don't forget who is really animating them. He confirms a cosmic, behind-the-curtain spiritual conspiracy. A grand puppet master who is pulling strings. What you see with your eyes is less real than what you can't see with your eyes...that is a theme oft repeated in the Bible.

What I have found very interesting is how the Bible presents a picture of the spirit of evil that is spot on consistent with narcissism. There is convincing evidence that the devil as described in the Bible is the king of narcissism. The originator of it. He is a monumental projection machine in that he blame shifts onto God all day long and smears his own attributes and motivations onto God. He is against any law that would constrain him from acting on his lusts. In other words, he is the original anarchist. He is all consumed with his self-interests. He is referred to as the original liar and murderer. He is also called the "accuser of the brethren" because he loves to slander and smear anyone who works at cross purposes to him.

I am convinced that we've all seen the face of evil in our Ns. I am also convinced that, by their choices, they have imbibed deeply of the "spirit of evil". They've been transformed into the image of their "father, the devil" himself by accepting his way of thinking. In the gospel of John, chapter 8 you can read an account of Christ confronting the hypocritical religious leaders with some pretty potent words:

Vs. 44...You are of your father the devil, and the desires of your father you want to do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it.

Christ was accusing these hypocrites of having unanimity of desire and spirit with the devil himself which transformed them into actors of the satanic will. Notice what an apt description of narcissism Christ enunciated here. He exposes the murderous intent which existed in the devil long before anyone was actually murdered. He states there is "no truth in him" which means when he is saying or doing anything, he is lying. You may or may not recognize the murderous intent of the narcissist. At the very least, you may admit that they try to kill your individuality, your spirit. The narcissists who lose all fear of authority easily proceed to murdering bodies instead of just souls when inconvenienced by having you around. Nevertheless, the narcissist's desire to obliterate you as an individual person is a form of murder. It is a form of annihilating you they can get away with without any consequence from the law. No truth in them? That is one of the most stunning realizations we come to when we finally understand narcissism; that their entire existence, along with their words and actions, is one big lie held up by multiplied lies.

Paul is in agreement with Christ: the evil acts of humanity are actuated by a real and personal devil. Christ and Paul are putting ultimate blame on the devil because it is his own spirit and resources that are the original source of evil.

You don't need to believe in the Biblical explanation of evil in order to believe that evil exists. But it is interesting to see the consistent and cogent explanations in the Bible for the spirit of the narcissist. Long before psychology came up with an explanation of evil human behavior known as NPD, the Bible described the spirit and behavior of narcissism. It is spread throughout its pages. You don't have to believe in a personal devil in order to recognize a "spirit of evil" that these narcissists have imbibed deeply. Perhaps one of the most convincing arguments for a spiritual being with a personality of evil animating evil humans is the unerring consistency of the behavior of narcissists. You can't help but marvel at the sameness of these people, and how one person's descriptions of the narcissist seem like descriptions of the narcissist you're dealing with. These people are all cut from the same cloth. How is it possible for narcissists the world over to be shockingly the same? Consider the concepts above and come to your own conclusions.

I agree totally with what the agnostic young man in the ACON group said after quoting part of Eph. 6:12:

"God dam abominations, ...yes they are evil, ...if these guys were all graduates from Hell Demon School it wouldn't surprize me... Evil incarnate..."

I think, in an all too real sense, these people have been tutored in some kind of Hell Demon School.

5 comments:

Margarida said...

I have done quite an amount of research on NPD, and my own father is one. I couldn't agree more about NPD = evil, and how accurately it is reflected in the Bible. These people think they're so unique, and in the end they're just clones of a rerun of the devil. they really are pathetic. And they gain positions of power because they have one objective, power, and no 'hangups' like moral principles to distract them. Also it is so much easier to destroy than to build. They are the ultimate weaklings, people so morally feeble they had to sell their souls to the devil just to exist at all.

Maya said...

I'm a young woman whose father is also a narcissist. He is evil. I feel sorry for him actually cos it's like the real him is dead & that he's possessed. Once when a few years ago when he got drunk he told my mom he was the devil and made boogie-man noises, like 'hoooo hoooo I'm the devil hoooo hoooo'. At the time it was funny but it's not a joke at all. Like the above person said they are morally weak & couldn't fight for their souls. I feel compelled sometimes to tell him its not too late & he can still change but they love evil and feed off it, and see your kindness/openness as an opportunity to attack or use somehow to their advantage and your detriment. In any case, yes they are sad creatures who will never experience the joys of love and life in the true sense.

grace sue said...

i had my horrifying experience with a npd guy.... sucks badly, you thought he is charming and tooo good to be true that he was interested in you. My intuition about him was so strong together with God's Truth from Scriptures yet i was tricked partially into some mind games. I confronted him many times that he was merely faking and every word he said was just lies, empty and hollow. He played so much psychological games, making me think that he was for real the next time. Gradually, God took me out of this whole evil encounter! I always see him as a reprical of the devil. He was so evil with verbal abuse, emotional and psychological abuse when i told him off... he showed narcissistic rage. He expected to be fed narcissistic supply so he stayed on to use and abuse me...i finally told myself that i cant be falling in love with the devil's son! Awful, very awful. Thank You Jesus for His Blood that covers me and His Protection over me! I often wonder how his ex gf would chose to return to him ... maybe for the sex! oh yes, he is only interested in sex and $. He sleeps around with gals and women between ages 25 and 50. He was so proud of himself and said he attracts them! He uses them for sex and pretend to say he felt bad about it! sigh...it is so true, he loves evil and feed off it! I told him that he was taking advantage of my kindness and pretend to care for me and quickly he tried to cover up by pretending to show care through text msg... whole load of crap!

Unknown said...

idoes a N know they are N?

and do they treat everyone the same?

Are they guilty or is it put upon by a higher power?

I had a rel.ship with a most beautiful woman......if I wanted to create one....it would be her....except for the rages......and I am protective of her even though she cheated me. I often wonder if it is not me, the narcissist

wonderful site Thank you

Anna Valerious said...

Yes, they are guilty. No one becomes evil without the exercise of their free will.