A webpage recommendation
I came across this webpage a few days ago and thought I would post it here for your benefit. The author has impressed me with their ability to describe the subtleties of the relationship between a narcissistic mother and her child(ren), and how her methods of control are myriad and many of them fly below the radar for onlookers. Only the child sees the look, hears the tone of her voice, understands the dire threat of punishment in a raised eyebrow....
See if this person has captured your narcissistic mom.
Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers
The link above has gone dead. Here is a link to another site which has reproduced the content of the Geocities site.