tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post5842504234810223901..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: More on the Removal of NPD from newest DSMAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-61778430706086750562015-08-26T22:17:59.090-06:002015-08-26T22:17:59.090-06:00my mother is a pathological n. when i was younger ...my mother is a pathological n. when i was younger i had a fantasy where i dosed her with lsd and she would be able to realize her four children are people not extensions of herself. i realized she is addicted to narcissistic supply and she would eventually fall back into her ways. there would need to be something that made her accept that she is narcissist ,the pattern of her behavior and to try to think differently. i dont think lsd would do that, i think only something perfectly catastrophic would be the needed catalyst. my point is i believe its possible but many n brains are well entrenched in their habits and "redemption" near impossiblelimerencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440759052214340051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-56625336505993776262014-11-03T21:09:58.071-07:002014-11-03T21:09:58.071-07:00Thanks :-) That rings true, and gives me something...Thanks :-) That rings true, and gives me something to chew over. Course chewing over is what we seem to be very good at! Which is your point. Thanks again.frothihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08111193088574376385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-72565660668941576452014-11-03T14:38:07.688-07:002014-11-03T14:38:07.688-07:00Frothi,
It really isn't important to know for...Frothi,<br /><br />It really isn't important to know for sure whether or not a narcissist can change. If they can, they will have to make the change themselves. We can't do it for them. If they can't, well, either way we have to decide what we can do. We either stay and accept the reality "what you see is what you get", or you go no contact. Those are <i>our</i> choices. <br /><br />You really don't need to get hung up on whether or not the narcissist can change, is able to change, isn't able to change... you just need to decide what you must do based on what is. Presuming that 'what is' is what it will likely continue to be is the wisest course. For many, "no contact" is an option, and it is a good option. I also recognize that it can't always be an option for everyone which is when the concept of "limited contact" is an option that can help limit the damage a narcissist inflicts. You don't have to psychoanalyze the narcissist. You just need to make the best decision for yourself going forward. Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-21485033975289812012014-11-03T01:50:35.207-07:002014-11-03T01:50:35.207-07:00Help me out here. Both my parents have NPD (imo). ...Help me out here. Both my parents have NPD (imo). I am intrigued by two conflicting thoughts in relation to NPD. On the one hand, nearly everyone in these forums is convinced that 'they can't change'. Don't try. Go 'no contact'. But in this blog, and especially in the above discussion, NPD is described as a 'choice' of habit. Is it really? Do those with NPD have a choice? They have developed their disorder remarkably young, it seems to me. My mother pinpoints it to when she was 2 and forced to abandon her primary caregivers and immigrate. A wound she has never recovered from. How much agency does she have? And can I, her daughter, have any expectation that this otherwise intelligent and politically and socially wise woman can redress her narcissm? Its confusing. I'm also not at happy about the black and white thinking in the ACON community. I don't want to go down that path. But I must admit, that giving myself a break through No Contact is such a relief. I'm very reluctant to re-engage, though I know she (and my father) do have worthwhile qualities. Love to hear more on the abiltiy of NPD's to learn (or not).frothihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08111193088574376385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-5595909718325163362014-02-06T10:00:08.869-07:002014-02-06T10:00:08.869-07:00http://pro.psychcentral.com/2013/dsm-5-changes-per...http://pro.psychcentral.com/2013/dsm-5-changes-personality-disorders-axis-ii/005008.html#<br /><br />It looks like they won't be removing it after all!~Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808165543409464471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-74813561144754931952012-05-27T14:57:07.080-06:002012-05-27T14:57:07.080-06:00I'm very thankful for this blog. During my ve...I'm very thankful for this blog. During my very painful and unwanted divorce, I came to the conclusion that my husband (along with his father, grandmother, and possibly sister) was a covert narcissist. We have joint custody of our children, so I can't go completely NC, but I've cut off communication as much as possible and it's helped a great deal. Except for the occasional (but increasingly rarer) outburst of anger toward him for how he's treated me, I'm doing pretty well. This blog, along with the book "The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists", have been instrumental in my healing.<br /><br />I worry about my children, though. My oldest, who is 13, shows some tendencies toward entitlement and narcissism, and I'm a bit at a loss as to how to deal with that. I'll be reading thru this blog again--and praying a lot.<br /><br />God bless all of you! : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-8285658659999966432012-03-15T22:18:19.533-06:002012-03-15T22:18:19.533-06:00Yes, it is my current email.Yes, it is my current email.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-73496127797058982142012-03-15T21:34:19.040-06:002012-03-15T21:34:19.040-06:00Anna,
Thank you so much for your blog! It has sh...Anna,<br /><br />Thank you so much for your blog! It has shed so much light on my life.<br /><br />I wanted to pass on some info to you. Is the email address on your profile current? Thanks!Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03063985213577968858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-42393267824099813642011-03-14T22:53:14.938-06:002011-03-14T22:53:14.938-06:00I am more than half way through reading this blog,...I am more than half way through reading this blog, Anna I'm so glad you created this blog it has literally been a life saver. <br /><br />I just have one quick observation before I continue reading. Did anyone notice that animated movie Tangled that recently came out tells the story of a daughter living with a malignant narcissist!? The movie is a modern adaptation of the Rapunzel story. A woman steals a child and locks it away using its magical powers to maintain her youth, without which she can't live. Narcissistic supply anyone? <br /><br />Thanks so much Anna for creating this blog, its been really helpful.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04811401085771855180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-88262003808009850552011-03-10T14:15:54.829-07:002011-03-10T14:15:54.829-07:00Ahh, it was not the spam-hammer that my comment fe...Ahh, it was not the spam-hammer that my comment fell prey to.<br /><br />My apologies to blog author!<br /><br />- Like your other readers I too will be very interested in updates if you learn more about this topic. It's of interest and can be of consequence also for a lot of people, so it's highly valued when someone with your education bothers to share what you learn and what you think about it.<br /><br />Be well...Zhawqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18149309325116416338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-8801514483946961182011-03-07T08:09:10.047-07:002011-03-07T08:09:10.047-07:00I miss it too!!!!I miss it too!!!!Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07302837610886622026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-34336008322760760612011-03-06T16:14:13.351-07:002011-03-06T16:14:13.351-07:00Come back to your blog. I miss your postings.Come back to your blog. I miss your postings.Jacksonian Travelerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02841901359172123788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-90916144305004868842011-03-05T17:39:01.527-07:002011-03-05T17:39:01.527-07:00All psychopaths are narcissists... but not all nar...All psychopaths are narcissists... but not all narcissists are psychopaths. <br /><br />The definition of narcissist doesn't include a scale of meanness. Some narcissists can hide their predatory behaviors behind a veneer of do-good-ism and can appear, on the surface, to be normal people.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-85539706762979435882011-03-05T16:24:19.760-07:002011-03-05T16:24:19.760-07:00I am really confused. My father was a psychopath b...I am really confused. My father was a psychopath but does that mean he was automatically a narcissist? <br />I always thought my mother was a N too but she is not that mean. Do you have to be really mean to be a N?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03104395523269130320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-13673170424480596432011-01-08T10:48:29.203-07:002011-01-08T10:48:29.203-07:00There is no way to predict that, Don. Keep prayin&...There is no way to predict that, Don. Keep prayin'. *grin*Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-9940697937934498932011-01-08T10:16:19.007-07:002011-01-08T10:16:19.007-07:00Anna...
will we be blessed in 2011 with more blog...Anna...<br /><br />will we be blessed in 2011 with more blog posts from you..?<br /><br />I can only pray!<br /><br />Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight!<br /><br />DonDonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02581646304386453237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-59451055402404783522011-01-05T22:11:29.609-07:002011-01-05T22:11:29.609-07:00How very well written, I absolutely agree with you...How very well written, I absolutely agree with you view on this subject.Zhawqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18149309325116416338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-62968936515839073592011-01-03T21:11:15.787-07:002011-01-03T21:11:15.787-07:00A skunk by any other name still smells like a skun...A skunk by any other name still smells like a skunk. So it is with malignant narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, or whatever they are called.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16465570737661757236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-30978881002900242432010-12-26T22:33:19.661-07:002010-12-26T22:33:19.661-07:00You can now click on the highlighted words "l...You can now click on the highlighted words "last post on this blog" and it'll take you there.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-20562863422353723452010-12-26T21:53:45.715-07:002010-12-26T21:53:45.715-07:00Can you please give a link to your original post a...Can you please give a link to your original post about the removal?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-85028420309728515432010-12-19T19:32:13.263-07:002010-12-19T19:32:13.263-07:00This American Live had a segment dealing with the ...<i>This American Live</i> had a segment dealing with the DSM and classifications of mental illness, specifically the removal of homosexuality as a mental illness. Those following the development of the DSM V might find <a href="http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/204/81-words" rel="nofollow">this episode</a> particularly interesting.Shaunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09672184172836328706noreply@blogger.com