tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post5282814832826094368..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: Kathy KrajcoAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-6735940090330565882009-04-24T15:32:00.000-06:002009-04-24T15:32:00.000-06:00Does anyone know how I can get a copy of Kathy Kra...Does anyone know how I can get a copy of Kathy Krajco's book "What Makes a Narcissist Tick?" I discovered her website a few years ago when I was struggling with the aftermath of a relationship with an N. Her work help save me from being lost by providing an understanding of what had happened to me. I am forever in her debt. <br />I downloaded a number of chapters from her website but would really appreciate it if someone could let me know how to get the book in its entirety, as well as any other books that she's written on Ns. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-21546900977433845942009-03-28T06:53:00.000-06:002009-03-28T06:53:00.000-06:00I feel like I've been gut punched. Just went looki...I feel like I've been gut punched. Just went looking for Kathy's site for a friend and ... oh my god.<BR/><BR/>Kathy saved my sanity and probably my life a few years ago when my sister went out of control and eventually committed suicide. Learning about narcissism was "Hell explained" and I am so grateful for the 6 months of information prior to Lil Sis' death and the support/advice/observations from KK and countless others. <BR/><BR/>She gave me the roadmap to make myself whole and stronger. I have become an online blogger activist, in large part because of the generosity of self given to me when my life was at its worst. A debt of inherit decency and goodness is owed and will be paid forward, gratefully and thankfully.<BR/><BR/>Thank you, Anna and NyphmadoraL, for keeping Kathy's work going forward...<BR/><BR/>And may whatever exists later on be kind, supportive and loving to Kathy. RIP, my friend.<BR/><BR/>Puglette/Louise/AndiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-87031723169538215362008-06-11T12:02:00.000-06:002008-06-11T12:02:00.000-06:00Hi,I am just catching up on this, I thought (hoped...Hi,<BR/><BR/>I am just catching up on this, I thought (hoped) Kathy was away on a tropical island with no internet. <BR/><BR/>I am heartsick.<BR/><BR/>I have Kathy's book and have memorized it - much of it is from her blogs - up until it was published. The later blogs wouldn't be included. <BR/><BR/>Also, regarding her sister - I don't know if I know this from the book or blog - <BR/><BR/>1. She said her sister poisoned her dog<BR/><BR/>2. She spoke often about her mother's death - where her dad would stare out the window and once Kathy went over to kick him in the rear end "to see his other ass" to show her mother she couldn't stand to see him ignore her as she died.<BR/><BR/>3. She told a horrible story about her mother's last hours and how the sister witheld pain medication while the mother begged for it, alone in the dark. <BR/><BR/>4. She talks about a bully teacher who would only teach freshmen because they were the most vulnerable, and i think drove one to suicide (what grade does the sister teach?)<BR/><BR/>I emailed Anna earlier regarding this - I contacted the police earlier today via email. i hope it was the right thing to do. <BR/><BR/>Even if the sister had nothing to do with it directly, the police will be aware of her and maybe a pattern will emerge in the future if she is doing this to others. <BR/><BR/>http://www.ci.janesville.wi.us/citysite/Contactform.aspx<BR/><BR/>Here is what I wrote to the police: <BR/><BR/>Hello -<BR/><BR/>There has been much speculation that the death of Kathy Krajco was not an accident. I understand the death certificate says natural causes - but Kathy had a blog and has published a book that cites abuse of her by her sister, who I believe lives across the street from where she died.<BR/><BR/>Kathy spoke on her blog of her sister poisoning her dog and ignoring her mother's pleas for pain medication within hours of her death, as well as physical assaults on Kathy.<BR/><BR/>Please make sure you take a THOROUGH look at this situation. <BR/><BR/>http://www.narcissism.operationdoubles.com/<BR/>http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/<BR/><BR/>--LilygirlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-60283283776640783602008-05-25T14:04:00.000-06:002008-05-25T14:04:00.000-06:00The obituary on says she died suddenly in her home...The obituary on says she died suddenly in her home. No cause of death given.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-74449103483681722412008-05-25T13:52:00.000-06:002008-05-25T13:52:00.000-06:00Anna,This news has come as a great shock. Never kn...Anna,<BR/><BR/>This news has come as a great shock. Never knew before that Kathy has passed away. I was wondering for the past few weeks why is there no fresh post on her blogsite....now I know. I have purchased the electronic version of her book...and that has helped me a lot.<BR/>How did this happen? was she sick?<BR/>Very unexpected....to say the least.Hellboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03121484597526335304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-58498780618914647142008-05-24T22:37:00.000-06:002008-05-24T22:37:00.000-06:00And now Kathy's sister and parents are named, for ...And now Kathy's sister and parents are named, for all the world to see. A simple Google search tells you the name of the high school where her sister works, and her email address. How ironic: Kathy's last post was about keeping safe on the internet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-6185082475718746992008-05-24T20:12:00.000-06:002008-05-24T20:12:00.000-06:00I remember well Kathy's post on plowing the drivew...I remember well Kathy's post on plowing the driveway. It struck me as her sister, too. A lot of information can be found in her responses to blog comments.<BR/><BR/>I read the entire blog over time, and checked it often. So when Kathy went silent, I wrote a comment asking if she was okay. Well, no. It is a shock to hear that she is gone.<BR/><BR/>Kathy played a big role in helping me deal with the N in my life. This complete stranger made a difference for me and my child, without ever knowing it.<BR/><BR/>Kathy Krajco, wherever you are, thank you for touching my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-58854904121813080802008-05-24T19:02:00.000-06:002008-05-24T19:02:00.000-06:00so what's in a heart -Kathy wrote extensively on t...so what's in a heart -<BR/><BR/>Kathy wrote extensively on tennis. She a few books to her credit. Additionally, I am sure she made her feelings about the Ns in her family and their behavior well known. She saw no reason to use a pen-name. She had income from the books too.<BR/><BR/>She was very fearless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-42220711326979771452008-05-24T16:25:00.000-06:002008-05-24T16:25:00.000-06:00"The URL got chopped. It is her 12.9.2007 post, "H..."The URL got chopped. It is her 12.9.2007 post, "How to Kill Your Sister and Get Away with It"."<BR/><BR/>I thought those were just stories used as examples. <BR/><BR/>"Makes me wonder what the real story is behind Kathy's untimely passing."<BR/><BR/>Yea, I've been wondering too. If her sister is, in fact, an N, and lived across the street? What about her father? He's dead, right? Kathy was no one's fool. If she was using her own familial experience, then wouldn't it have been safer to use a fake name? <BR/><BR/>Only thing is that people with NPD lack self-awareness, so even if they knew about her blog, they'd simple assume that she's talking about others, right? Or they wouldn't care what she had to say unless they blame her for people finally dumping them. <BR/><BR/>Like I said, I thought those were "example" stories, not her actual life.So, what IS in a heart?https://www.blogger.com/profile/00482423451947167280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-27487688727381512682008-05-24T09:21:00.000-06:002008-05-24T09:21:00.000-06:00nymphadoral,If you are willing, and when you have ...nymphadoral,<BR/><BR/>If you are willing, and when you have time, would you email me? <BR/><BR/>castlemania1900@mailcan.comAnna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-82870403070849973312008-05-24T06:39:00.000-06:002008-05-24T06:39:00.000-06:00Here's another indication of her sister - in "The ...Here's another indication of her sister - in "The Mirror of a Parent's Eye" (February 06, 2006)<BR/><BR/>"One narcissist I knew was so successful at viewing others as part of the furniture that in 50 years never did learn to distinguish his daughters. He never got names straight! Half the time he called Terry "Ka-terry" and Kathy "Te-kathy." Often, it was worse than that. He'd sometimes get halfway through a rant at, say, "Terry," before he'd use the name and Kathy would have to tell him what her name was. Over the phone he'd keep forgetting which one he was talking to. Though they were different as night and day (one was a narcissist) they were both the same to him. If he ran into one of them in an unusual setting, such as in the grocery store or on the street, he would stand gaping at her as though wondering why that woman was looking at and approaching him (= he didn't recognize his own daughter) until she said, "Dad" and started talking to him!"<BR/><BR/>http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2006/02/mirror-of-parents-eye.html<BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm really worried about what had happened to Kathy.Tobihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708133275477048571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-46967528222217975882008-05-24T02:17:00.000-06:002008-05-24T02:17:00.000-06:00Anna~I just downloaded and converted to PDFs all t...Anna~<BR/><BR/>I just downloaded and converted to PDFs all the pages from the What Makes Narcissists Tick website (not the blog). Not sure what to do with them - ideas? Also, there is the issue of it being copyrighted material - and who now owns the copyright...? I'm don't think this i the entire book, but it is between 200-300 pages (82 files)...Jeannette Alteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06574051760314762024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-67049958129278941062008-05-23T23:17:00.000-06:002008-05-23T23:17:00.000-06:00Kathy had a malignant N- Father. She describes he...Kathy had a malignant N- Father. She describes her sister as N and one of her uncles? as N... as well as other family.<BR/><BR/>That's why I am worried about the blog.<BR/><BR/>I hope any of you who have journals, blogs, sites - will go to her site and c&p whatever you have found helpful and informative to your sites/blogs. Keep her brilliant mind alive for all us ACONsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-37402036113639083062008-05-23T23:16:00.000-06:002008-05-23T23:16:00.000-06:00Anna,I'm commenting at will ;)My ripping software ...Anna,<BR/><BR/>I'm commenting at will ;)<BR/><BR/>My ripping software appears to be able to grab the blog and the master website. I can "mirror" or make a copy of both. How deep into the archives I can go, I have not tested. Google blog may shut me down.<BR/><BR/>I am very seriously thinking of securing a url and creating a mirror site in honor of Kathy; at least, in September, when her main site expires, the mirror can be up and at least mostly functional. I of course, would not be able to offer her book, post or access her current blog or do anything of that nature, but the information she posted will live on in her honor.<BR/><BR/>I went and checked, and kathykrajco.com is available as a url. I am also willing to purchase the existing url when it expires in September, money and no one else grabbing it permitting, and then I can keep it pointing to the mirror site that I create, as long as I can afford to host and maintain it.<BR/><BR/>Is there any objections from anyone in doing so? (The copyright implications are scaring me silly and I have to do this on my own, separate from my business - I can't jeopardise my mine nor my partner's interests. He would rightfully have a large cow, bless his sweet heart.)<BR/><BR/>I am truly open for feedback, please!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-8158784133514470642008-05-23T22:13:00.000-06:002008-05-23T22:13:00.000-06:00nymphadoral,God bless you for doing this research!...nymphadoral,<BR/><BR/>God bless you for doing this research! I will anxiously await all developments. Don't promise me not to write! Comment at will. :o)Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-44347924865547794982008-05-23T22:07:00.000-06:002008-05-23T22:07:00.000-06:00Anna, I hope you don't get tired of me tonight! I'...Anna, I hope you don't get tired of me tonight! I'm terribly sorry these posts are so disjointed. FYI - I just wanted to let you know that I did some research on Kathy's main url, and it is set to expire in September of this year. That means that only the blog will survive, google permitting.<BR/><BR/>I promise I won't write any more this weekend!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-44282752768904065912008-05-23T21:39:00.000-06:002008-05-23T21:39:00.000-06:00Anna,Sorry my post is disjointed. I'm going to try...Anna,<BR/><BR/>Sorry my post is disjointed. I'm going to try to use some software I have to rip the website. What it does is copy the entire website so that it is completely available offline - google blog may not permit this, or it may be so huge as to be impossible. But, I am going to try over the weekend, and let you know how it turns out. If I can copy it, I can host a site that can be found and still visited, and linked to her blog in her memory. I'm going to try. Wish me luck :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-41827299090565989672008-05-23T21:25:00.000-06:002008-05-23T21:25:00.000-06:00Anna,I did some research on Google blogs, and ther...Anna,<BR/><BR/>I did some research on Google blogs, and there is no way to just migrate the database to another blog, especially since none of us are an admin of the site; it is a cut and paste affair, I'm afraid, post by post. <BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, we don't have access to repoint or forward her URL, either, unless someone with those rights is willing to do so, and knows where she bought her URL.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to do some further research. I might even volunteer to create a blog, and with everyone's collective approval, migrate the bloody thing post by post.<BR/><BR/>It's worth doing, for her, and for everyone who suffers at the hands of an N. Her site was pivotal for me, as is yours.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-66077241708155300442008-05-23T21:16:00.000-06:002008-05-23T21:16:00.000-06:00The URL got chopped. It is her 12.9.2007 post, "H...The URL got chopped. It is her 12.9.2007 post, "How to Kill Your Sister and Get Away with It".Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-71349363125006735212008-05-23T21:15:00.000-06:002008-05-23T21:15:00.000-06:00http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/12/how-to-kil...http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2007/12/how-to-kill-your-sister-and-get-away.html<BR/><BR/>This post sounds all the world like Kathy is describing something that happened to her--perpetrated by her sister. The non-narcissist sister in this story is described as being 55 years old with a bad heart and pneumonia. Kathy didn't turn 56 until just a few days before her death. She doesn't ever say definitely that this story is about her and her sister...but it must be. Yikes. I wonder why she was still living just across the street from her sister. Kathy mentions that the evil sister had stolen the other sister's inheritance, and could have her eye on her copyrights as well. Makes me wonder what the real story is behind Kathy's untimely passing.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-21351059146419175372008-05-23T21:03:00.000-06:002008-05-23T21:03:00.000-06:00I went back and found the blog post you pulled tha...I went back and found the blog post you pulled that quote from, Jordie. I see that I did read that one before. She posed the sister as a MN as a hypothetical...which is how I took it when I read it back in March or whenever. It isn't stated as a definitive...Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-41754121539262780492008-05-23T20:53:00.000-06:002008-05-23T20:53:00.000-06:00Thank you for providing the proof, Jordie. It is ...Thank you for providing the proof, Jordie. It is worrisome because the only other relative besides her deceased parents specifically mentioned in the obituary was a sister living in the same town. I worry because if that sister is a narcissist then Kathy's work on malignant narcissism could be in even more danger. Unless Kathy had the foresight to take measures to protect her work.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-10562847608675998802008-05-23T20:42:00.000-06:002008-05-23T20:42:00.000-06:00Thursday, March 13, 2008Doing Justice to the Norma...Thursday, March 13, 2008<BR/><BR/>Doing Justice to the Normal Children of Narcissists <BR/><BR/>As I mentioned before, I am the child of a malignant narcissist. Now, can I have a sister of nearly the same age who is a malignant narcissist? Of course. But how could that ever happen if conventional wisdom is correct?<BR/><BR/>Indeed, if having a parent with NPD causes NPD, how can there be so many normal children of narcissists?<BR/><BR/>I think it's about time us normal children of narcissists demand our due. I say to all the narcissist-excusers, DO US JUSTICE or feel our wrath. Get your niggardly mits off the credit due me for turning out the way I did. <BR/><BR/>Yes, you are robbing me of the credit I deserve when you excuse the child who becomes a narcissist, by saying he or she had no choice, that he or she is just a machine whose buttons were pushed by an abusive father. When you say that, you say that I am just a different kind of machine, and I won't ignore the insult in that...<BR/><BR/><BR/>Quote from Kathy's blog....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-61840268872213044082008-05-23T19:02:00.000-06:002008-05-23T19:02:00.000-06:00I too am deeply saddened to hear this news. Kathy'...I too am deeply saddened to hear this news. Kathy's main site was the first real site I found that made sense of NPD. She was truly brilliant. May she rest in peace.<BR/><BR/>PeggyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-84302634047135060712008-05-23T18:01:00.000-06:002008-05-23T18:01:00.000-06:00Wow. Thanks. I'll have to go check that out. Gu...Wow. Thanks. I'll have to go check that out. Guess I missed more of her posts than I'd realized. Thank you for letting me know.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.com