tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post3738967603732355539..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: How to Tell What the Narcissist is Up ToAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-65955397432213147982017-05-01T19:35:23.048-06:002017-05-01T19:35:23.048-06:00Mine has the persona of shy codependent, quietly s...Mine has the persona of shy codependent, quietly spoken a perfect social predator surrounded by friends and family. <br />If it looked like evil he wouldn't be successful, he is evil. Anonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05454398540769559517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-25782907736163064592016-08-26T12:24:50.964-06:002016-08-26T12:24:50.964-06:00Question - I'm doing research on narcissists f...Question - I'm doing research on narcissists for a character in a piece of fiction I'm writing. This blog post is so helpful and informative - and I'm so sorry you all have gone through this!! In my story, the main character is told to marry a guy that she intuitively can tell is bad news even though he is nice (the term narcissist doesn't exist at the time period of the story) so she runs away, all the while being told she's crazy for turning down tons of money. My question is, for you who have lived through relationships with people like this, what would you want a main character to "see" through the mask of the narcissist character? What would be the main red flag that says "run" to her?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-54008859054158954532010-02-15T22:10:51.228-07:002010-02-15T22:10:51.228-07:00"Beware of the one who often talks of killing..."Beware of the one who often talks of killing them self...they may actually be planning murder."<br /><br />This comment sent chills down my spine. I just broke up with a N boyfriend after spending the last 2 weeks on suicide watch over him. I would bring him to the hospital and he would switch to a charming flirt in interviews with the medical staff? At first I was too numb to realize how psychopathic his behavior was. 30 minutes before he had just threatened to hang himself at my home with tears in his eyes?<br />Last weekend he got drunk and confessed to me that he had fantasies about killing his ex-wife because she had left him and destroyed his life. That night I finally had enough of the bull he has been abusing me with for the past 8 months.<br /><br />I have been trying to break it off with him for 2 months now and he always managed to crawl back under my skin. I'm glad that I met him though; I realized that I have been repeating my relationship with my mom through other people in my life. I don't have a sense of normal boundaries and have been in insane situations because that is kind of like what my childhood was like. My mother also talked about killing herself like my N boyfriend. She would go into specific details. How sick is that; to put that kind of a burden on your own child?<br /><br />I have to say this again, thank you so much for this blog. I believe in god and I think that I was ready to see the truth last week. I've been reading your blog daily and I keep seeing more and more of the truth. I have faith that it will eventually set me free.Cat Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01507641279346781198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-82337495491709195262007-07-11T17:52:00.000-06:002007-07-11T17:52:00.000-06:00My N mother has always taken on the persona of mar...My N mother has always taken on the persona of martyr. Any peacemaking she has had to do was 'forced' on her by the rest of her family. She too though, like your mother, is a pot stirrer. I heard an expression the other day which sums up her behaviour, she is an 'uproar'. She doesn't cause it, she IS it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com