tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post3567026056157144664..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: Growing Up With SisterAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-76363735314709397462018-03-11T10:16:41.690-06:002018-03-11T10:16:41.690-06:00Well anonymous, 5-14-07, I don’t understand why yo...Well anonymous, 5-14-07, I don’t understand why you have the attention span of a gnat coupled with the ability to cherry pick what you think is appropriate or not for someone else’s Blog-more specifically, someone else’s lived experience. My issue is not with your disagreement but with your failure to READ THE DAMN BLOG. There’s this concept called “CONTEXT.” <br /><br />Perhaps we can find a few golden books for you a la, <br />See Spot.<br />See Spot Run.<br />Run Spot Run.<br /><br />Do you understand what Spot is doing? Yeah, you don’t get why his running requires “attention” because you missed the previous page, “See Spot fleeing the house fire at his home.” The house is burning down, Spot is endeavoring to save his canine ass and all’s you can do is obtusely puzzle over the mystery of why this old dog’s ability to assess the context of this particular fire in this particular home at this particular location which happens to be his residence thus requiring his primal sense of self-preservation kicks in so he doesn’t turn into barbecued dog jerky. Oh, and Spot was the oldest of the litter 15 yrs. ago back at the farm if that extraneous bit of information would assist you in solving this canine quadratic equation.<br />Face/Palm. <br />TWTundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02686605376448801988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-4366721207620780782007-05-19T10:39:00.000-06:002007-05-19T10:39:00.000-06:00To your question about name-calling...no, I don't ...To your question about name-calling...no, I don't remember my sister using name-calling, and neither did I. The reason for this was my mother's strict rule against it. My mother felt strongly about a few things, and this was one of them. "Shut up" was like profanity in our house. So put-downs were conveyed obliquely through attitude, tone and commentary. <BR/><BR/>I am happy to read that at 38 you are free of the opinions of your family about you. Your attitude about knowing in order to love is right on. Yes, I have healed from the perverted family dynamics of my family. I am free of all of them in every way possible. Which is why I am motivated to share my insights and experience; I am anxious for others to be free too. Thanks for visiting and commenting.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-63927814184479471602007-05-17T13:49:00.000-06:002007-05-17T13:49:00.000-06:00Anna, I feel like you wrote about my life with my ...Anna, I feel like you wrote about my life with my older sister. Exactly. Everything from laziness, doing everyting she wanted to do or suffer, her thinking she was God's gift and me chopped liver... You did not mention name calling. Did you sister do this? Mine was the expert in coming up with names that she knew got under my skin. Actually she did anything to get under my skin. I too became concerned about my family's interpretation of me, only because I felt they were completely off and wanted them to know that I really was a good person. Now, at 38, I could care less what they think of me, because I know the will never know the real me. To know is to love, and they are lacking in the capabilities of loving others. Well, I hope you have healed from your family dynamics, you sound like a very smart, insightful women. Best Wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-30037420235687517942007-05-14T09:24:00.000-06:002007-05-14T09:24:00.000-06:00I haven't attempted to psychoanalyze the reasons f...I haven't attempted to psychoanalyze the reasons for my sister's attitudes. That is an exercise I leave to those intent on enabling and supporting a narcissist. I am focusing on <I>behaviors</I>. The "whys" are immaterial because none of us can change another person. But how they chose to <I>act</I> is what affects us. Starting at about age thirteen and increasing year by year, my sister was very confident of her looks. She did <I>not</I> feel like she was less to look at than me. <BR/><BR/>I have described the dynamic of my narcissist mother's ways of keeping me in subjection, and now I am starting to describe how my sister took advantage of this and was simply piling on. Your comprehension skills need a little work as evidenced by what information you choose to ignore in order to make your stupid comment. Which, by the way, if you don't see the reasons for why I'm giving these things attention that takes us right back to your comprehension skills. Non. Existent.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-53218936577614507672007-05-14T05:01:00.000-06:002007-05-14T05:01:00.000-06:00I don't see your sister as being haughty, I think ...I don't see your sister as being haughty, I think she feels ugly next to you and so compensates for that by posing.<BR/><BR/>You are the older sister, not her. I don't undestand why you give this so much attention.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com