tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post7486455046870009393..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: My Mother -- The ActressAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-22476049736835660572011-12-17T11:37:38.198-07:002011-12-17T11:37:38.198-07:00Actually, she believes that THE WHOLE WORLD REVOLV...Actually, she believes that THE WHOLE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND HER AND MORE IMPORTANTLY IT CANNOT FUNCTION WITHOUT HER. LoL :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-51247153129208925942011-12-17T11:36:02.046-07:002011-12-17T11:36:02.046-07:00But, I was obviously irritate by her because it wa...But, I was obviously irritate by her because it wasn't such a big deal. I just ignored her as she had stormed into my bedroom when I didn't want her. After some time, when she got really pissed off, she said in a condescending tone,"Had there been an 'average' woman like you in my place, she would have never beeh able to figure out the truck." I turned to her and asked very frankly, "Are you trying to belittle me Aunty?" And with an evil laughter she said "Yes". Then I lost it but keeping my composure I said, "Oh I forgot that you were Margarette Thature". :D Se was so obviously purturbed and embarrassed that she couldn't even make an eye contact with me any more and left the room murmuring something about her husband..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-38225593737074754052011-12-17T11:28:38.244-07:002011-12-17T11:28:38.244-07:00While coordinating with him on the cell, she saw a...While coordinating with him on the cell, she saw a nearby truck in a traffic jam on the same road and found out that it was the same truck. Well, she was telling me all that so enthusiatically and I didn't even have an iota of clue as to what she was trying to conclude from that. After some time, I realized that she was childishly seeking my attention and wanted me to tell her something like "Oh Aunty! You're such an intelligent goddess that nobody can match you."...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-31395220438195387182011-12-17T11:20:36.587-07:002011-12-17T11:20:36.587-07:00She used to compete with me a lot in the earliest ...She used to compete with me a lot in the earliest years of my marriage. Once, she just picked up a silly argument (one-sidedly) and dragged me into it. Actually, she was busy supervising the construction project of her new house and there was some very ordinary incident of recognizing a truck, loading the bricks she had purchased, on the same highway she was travelling with her husband. They were coordinating with the driver on their cell phones to guide him through the roads of the city as the driver wasn't familiar with them and had come for the first time..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-7813445619090367532011-12-17T11:12:48.740-07:002011-12-17T11:12:48.740-07:00According to my MIL, that poor old guy had compare...According to my MIL, that poor old guy had compared her with his own daughter-in-law (my MIL's "counterpart" whom she had always competed with) and glorified my MIL as being superior both in intellect and beauty. I was shocked to hear that from her mouth. My God! How could it be possible that a ninety years old man on his death bed could even recognize her? And even if he did, why the hell would he ONLY talk about her?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-8075282201890198472011-12-17T11:07:02.347-07:002011-12-17T11:07:02.347-07:00Dear Anna! I laughed my heart out at the last stor...Dear Anna! I laughed my heart out at the last story about S. Loren; and coincidentally my own mother's name is Sophia; so, considering the fact that my MIL is a N-MIL .....Hahahahha... The story fits me so well. Lol... I want to share one of my N-MIL's delusional fantacies. Once she went to see the paternal grandfather of her only son-in-law. That poor old guy was a ninety-year-old patient of cancer and was on his death bed. He had lost almost all of his consciousness when my N-MIL met him. When she came back home, I asked her about his condition. I was expecting her to tell me something about him, but LO AND BEHOLD! She told me how that old man on his death bed had glorified her beauty and intellect...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-35194992263892035752009-01-05T16:48:00.000-07:002009-01-05T16:48:00.000-07:00New reader, compulsively going through your archiv...New reader, compulsively going through your archives. The narcissist in my life is my mother-in-law. She adorns both her grandiose homes (which they can't really afford, but appearance is everything) with photos of herself, mostly as a young and admittedly very beautiful woman. She loves to tell the story of how she met Brad Pitt on the ferry to Alcatraz - "I was 45 then, and pretty cute". She's now nearly 60 but still wears her hair waist length and bottle blonde, all the better to toss around Miss Piggy style.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-36371560821079683642007-10-20T11:41:00.000-06:002007-10-20T11:41:00.000-06:00An actress? No doubt. A consummate actress? No ...An actress? No doubt. A consummate actress? No way. Which is why I compared her acting to Norma Desmond. Over the top. Unrealistically dramatized. <BR/><BR/>I would believe my mother was a consummate actress if she actually kept people in her life. She is not able to keep people fooled for great lengths of time. She is finding herself quite alone in her old age. Without the veneer of youthful beauty the acting job loses its power. Yes, she has fooled some of the people some of the time. That is no proof she is a <I>good</I> actress. It only tends to prove that Barnum's maxim holds true: there is a sucker born every minute.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-7404406501175522662007-10-20T10:55:00.000-06:002007-10-20T10:55:00.000-06:00Ah, but your mother is a consummate actress, isn't...Ah, but your mother <I>is</I> a consummate actress, isn't she? All her life, people have believed that she is a human being... capable of love, kindness, gratitude.<BR/><BR/>... if that isn't the ultimate form of Acting, what is?<BR/>*shudder*Stormchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039949137714076734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-48661923578752008042007-09-28T06:29:00.000-06:002007-09-28T06:29:00.000-06:00This is hysterical. My mom was also a "could have ...This is hysterical. My mom was also a "could have been" great actress - if only she hadn't been sucked into a young marriage with kids, she might have reached her potential! Tragic!<BR/><BR/>I thought I was the only kid who had pictures of my mother that were airbrushed headshots - autographed to "my darling daughter". One of my birthday presents a few years ago was a big-ass pastel portrait of HERSELF, the study for the full-length real-size oil portrait of herself she keeps in her bedroom.<BR/><BR/>The only way I can laugh is that the portrait was done by a family friend's daughter. The family has more money and status than the daughter does artistic talent, however, and the portrait, of my mother in an evening gown, curiously makes my mom look, for all eternity, as if she has to use the restroom. Oh, and my mother's brushes with fame are similar - her favorite is something about a red dress and a major director who picked her out of a hundred women because she was smart enough to wear a "sexy red dress." Ah, the red dress story ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-28367374759751046112007-09-12T09:45:00.000-06:002007-09-12T09:45:00.000-06:00Nah - my mother wasn't Norma Desmond. My mother (...Nah - my mother wasn't Norma Desmond. My mother (even looked a little, as she got older) like the mother on EVERYBODY LOVES RAYMOND. The passive aggressive undermining, etc. Definitely my mother - gave me the chills.<BR/><BR/>One of my all time favs is DANGEROUS LIAISONS. 2 Ns go head to head over sex. One ends up realizing he's been a sh*t and gets killed (i.e. the N 'explosion' if they ever realize what they've done) and the other is exposed and humiliated. I used to be an actor so the acting is stellar. And the moral is wonderfully presented.<BR/><BR/>Did you ever see the movie SIDEWAYS? Thomas Hayden Church plays a character that is most N men I have ever come across (Friend or Romantically).<BR/><BR/>My late Nmom always had a very skewed view of everything. She told everyone I looked like Princess Di (I don't - not one bit). She also never admitted to people I was a working actor and got my late Dad to follow suit. I was the family embarrassment - she made that quite clear. Even the awards I won while in grad school for acting? She was mortified.<BR/><BR/>Gotta wonder if Ns ever see themselves in these characters? Its so obvious but I seriously doubt it, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-48196034444742587572007-09-12T02:21:00.000-06:002007-09-12T02:21:00.000-06:00My mother was born at the same time and place as t...My mother was born at the same time and place as the Queen of England, and that therefore entitles her to a special connection, apparently.<BR/><BR/>I actually believed it all as a little kid.<BR/><BR/>Some time ago one of my sisters told me that her work colleagues used to call her 'The Duchess' behind her back because of her airs and graces.<BR/><BR/>I find it interesting that my mother still thinks of herself as young even though she is in her eighties. She visits an old folks home and talks about them as though they were ancient, when they are the same age as her.<BR/><BR/>Its truly incredible how they see themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-9222748813546981522007-09-11T19:00:00.000-06:002007-09-11T19:00:00.000-06:00Peggy,Hopefully you will post your review here. :o...Peggy,<BR/><BR/>Hopefully you will post your review here. :o) I'm interested on what your "take" on it is.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-13746014554904529222007-09-11T18:16:00.000-06:002007-09-11T18:16:00.000-06:00I'm going to have to rent Sunset Blvd now.PeggyI'm going to have to rent Sunset Blvd now.<BR/><BR/>PeggyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-73745548082125302152007-09-11T17:52:00.000-06:002007-09-11T17:52:00.000-06:00Hey, Barbara,Is it cuz Norma Desmond acts a lot li...Hey, Barbara,<BR/><BR/>Is it cuz Norma Desmond acts a lot like your mother, too? <BR/><BR/>I only recently (a little over a year ago) discovered "Sunset Blvd." It is now one of my favs. That, and "Death Becomes Her". That campy, silly movie captures other aspects of my incredibly vain mother. I scream laughing every time I watch it. It has a perfect ending for the Ns.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-34370085898491314872007-09-11T17:00:00.000-06:002007-09-11T17:00:00.000-06:00Anonymous - You have to grasp that Ns don't think ...Anonymous - You have to grasp that Ns don't think like us and are unable to feel. You may know the N has no looks but they have no clue. And your telling them is going to cause them to rage at you.<BR/><BR/>Anna - I get the BIGGEST kick out of that photo of Norma Desmond. Its one of my all time favorite movies, btw.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-75585282396528560502007-09-11T09:03:00.000-06:002007-09-11T09:03:00.000-06:00Their mirror is you. That is what they us for. T...Their mirror is <B>you</B>. That is what they us for. To reflect to them the image they want to see. Yeah, it can be pretty incomprehensible what they can delude themselves about. But they couldn't do it so well without us.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-63770886778221809562007-09-10T23:04:00.000-06:002007-09-10T23:04:00.000-06:00What I have never been able to figure out is how t...What I have never been able to figure out is how the N who has nothing (looks, lifestyle, talent) can have such an encompassing sense of entitlement. I know it's the illusion of their image they see, but come on! Don't they ever pass a mirror?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-88053754331729966232007-09-10T22:26:00.000-06:002007-09-10T22:26:00.000-06:00Facinating insight about Sunset Blvd. I love that ...Facinating insight about Sunset Blvd. <BR/><BR/>I love that movie, and never realized that Norma Desmond is a classic narcissist until reading this. One of those head-slapping "duh" moments.<BR/><BR/>My sympathies for having grown up with such a person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-16794688429681185732007-09-10T17:24:00.000-06:002007-09-10T17:24:00.000-06:00Similar story myself with my mother.Of course prob...Similar story myself with my mother.<BR/><BR/>Of course probably one teeny bit of truth blown into a MOUNTAIN of N-Supply by her.<BR/><BR/>I swear they are all from Planet-B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com