tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post2942175777913169840..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: When I Surprised My Narcissist Mother-Part TwoAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-89243572679065955122011-05-27T13:08:12.807-06:002011-05-27T13:08:12.807-06:00As I said, the improvement occurred after my baby&...As I said, the improvement occurred after my baby's death. There was an autopsy...so, yes, I'm sure he died of SIDS. My mother was no where near my baby when he died. While I understand your suspicions, they're unfounded in this instance. Thanks.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-68134618012144015612011-05-27T01:33:56.080-06:002011-05-27T01:33:56.080-06:00"She didn't start to climb out of her dep..."She didn't start to climb out of her depression until my baby was two days shy of two months old. My baby died of SIDS."<br />Did she climb out of her depression just before, or just after your baby died?<br />Are you certain your child died of SIDS? You mentioned that your mother would likely have murdered you if you hadn't been such a quiet child. She does indeed, sound murderous.<br />And then, "No baby, no husband," and you'll come back home again? Is she the type to "take care of" the matter of an inconvenient baby?<br />There's no statute on murder. Was she anywhere near your child just before your child died?Umbrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09480117868499388173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-26811999224669564612010-08-27T16:04:22.041-06:002010-08-27T16:04:22.041-06:00It is so brave of you to share your story, thank y...It is so brave of you to share your story, thank you. I'd imagine it would be both terrifying and theraputic at the same time. I hate to even think about my teen years and the mistakes I made back then. It brought tears to my eyes reading your father's reaction to your post-elopement phone call...so sad. =(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-29193411245837685512009-06-19T21:40:18.430-06:002009-06-19T21:40:18.430-06:00Weak father, N mother, pregnant at 17, younger sis...Weak father, N mother, pregnant at 17, younger sister,silent treatment, isolation... I am the 'black sheep' now 31... and becoming more and more aware of how i refuse to be corrupted by evil...Thank you.. my inner demon self doubt... but now i know my enemy, I am learning how to fight with my own fire of truth.. <br /> http://uk.blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-.CxYDmQ0d6J.Z7Sa9gbk4mcwrYY-?cq=1&l=1&u=5&mx=73&lmt=5.. my blog which is closing soon.. so will find a new platform and continue to shine a light as you so verily do.<br />Amandaelderwoodxxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11806356692814790312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-74947391769512515852009-05-25T22:58:33.322-06:002009-05-25T22:58:33.322-06:00What a horrible experience for you. I am so sorry...What a horrible experience for you. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. :( I can't imagine going through something so painful, let alone having a mother who reacted in such a way.<br /><br />It sure seems like you are a gift to others going through similar experiences. I have some extended relatives who seem to be N's and I relate to them from a very safe distance. But I've seen what they've done to their children. It's very sad. My aunt disowned her children at times for locating their biological parents. She took it as the deepest insult. Even at a time she was saying her son wasn't her family anymore, he was hospitalized and near death. She said, "Why is this happening to me???" She sent him a card. That's it. But this young man who she forbade her siblings to talk about, all of a sudden he's her family again because he's possibly dying and it's all about her? He got better and the disowning continued.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285671436234883895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-26052262543807346662009-01-07T11:12:00.000-07:002009-01-07T11:12:00.000-07:00I'm totally at a loss for words.I read this post a...I'm totally at a loss for words.<BR/>I read this post and just really wanted to say, "thank God you got out". Your insight is so helpful to others.XOXOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230265945266327701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-64742129546001289032009-01-07T09:39:00.000-07:002009-01-07T09:39:00.000-07:00It would have required a lot more bravery to stay....It would have required a lot more bravery to <I>stay</I>. I don't feel like I was all that courageous. I was scared, very, very scared. What I did was an act of self-preservation. Given my home life, the outside world looked a lot less intimidating to me than staying in my parent's home.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-5244068938396227982009-01-07T04:38:00.000-07:002009-01-07T04:38:00.000-07:00You are so brave to have decided to leave, Anna. I...You are so brave to have decided to leave, Anna. I admire your courage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-6587104209596171512007-07-16T01:21:00.000-06:002007-07-16T01:21:00.000-06:00I really connected with your insight. I saw the p...I really connected with your insight. I saw the part where if you let the N back into your life after you've shattered their world then they will make you pay and pay and pay.<BR/><BR/>I had an experience with my mother when I was much younger when she decided to divorce my dad. I chose to live with him, but since she lived in a house zoned for my high school it was easier for my dad to drop me off at school in the morning and then I would ride the bus back to her house. I remember being torn into on a daily basis by that woman because I didn't choose her. She never gave me a reason to choose her.<BR/><BR/>I'd write more but that's something I should probably post on my own blog at some point.kylethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18430466785235598663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-9249444699333282412007-04-25T09:04:00.000-06:002007-04-25T09:04:00.000-06:00As I read your comment, I was rather amazed at the...As I read your comment, I was rather amazed at the similarity of our histories. I am glad to know that at least one person has benefited in some way from my sharing my history. I always feel a little icky when I reflect back on those days. It was no different after posting my story. Thanks for making it seem worthwhile.<BR/><BR/>I have come to despise my father even more than my mother for his demanding over the years that his daughters make allowances for his wife's abusive behaviors. He would tell us how she was "fragile" and it was our responsibility to not break her by standing up to her. When he demanded this of me again a year and a half ago, I told him how I wasn't playing the game his way anymore. We had all the evidence we need to prove his method had made Mom worse, not better. He was happy to be rid of me after a summer of letter exchanges with me where I wouldn't back down an inch, and in fact got all the more "in his face" by calling him on his lies and lack of logic. He seems content to have me out of the picture now. <BR/><BR/>I hate weak fathers. I hate that your father enabled the cruelty of your mother to continue unabated. I completely relate to feeling like Cinderella. I too have been controlled and kept quiet by the over-riding concern for "peace". At some point I realized all we had was Detente. When I was willing to engage in open warfare it became apparent I had the moral and intellectual high ground. My bullying father was cowed. I walked off the "field" the victor because I gained my life sans them. I look forward to the day when you too can find the courage to stand up against the evil in your family and declare your emancipation. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for reading my blog. God bless.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-60182375262457383652007-04-25T07:11:00.000-06:002007-04-25T07:11:00.000-06:00Thank you for sharing your experience and insight....Thank you for sharing your experience and insight. Your posts provide assurance that I'm not alone as a "good girl" daughter who has been long emotionally abused by n-mom and enabler dad. Even as a young child I knew that n-mom didn't love/value/cherish me, and that she strongly preferred/favored my younger (also now narcisstic) sister. Dad failed to intervene or protect me, also failed to properly parent, advocating "peace in the family". I'm supposed to excuse n-mom's petty cruelities, lopsided favoritism, dad's tirades, their extreme punishments, etc. N-sis is beneficiary of their bad behavior towards me. I'm proverbial Cinderella. <BR/><BR/>So often I've been told "that's the way I am/she is", "your mom just doesn't like you", "you always made us/me so unhappy", and "we don't want to see you, we just want our grandchild".<BR/><BR/>I expect them to eventually disown me - not because of my actions, but just because their history of uneven financial treatment. I'd like to "divorce" them too, just haven't found enough courage yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com