tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post116707100958596830..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: Contact From the Dark SideAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-73760043251094549592011-11-01T21:48:55.015-06:002011-11-01T21:48:55.015-06:00Wow, I am so glad I am not the only one who though...Wow, I am so glad I am not the only one who thought it was weird to the extreme when my dad showed up at my house this winter with all my original baby pictures and original artwork and cards I made for my parents as a kid, but also photocopies of photos of this family that he kept the originals of. Although, I may be giving my enabling father too much credit, but my guess is that he did this to keep my mother from tossing it out like she did everything else of me in her house.<br /><br />Still, I felt wounded, that little girl in my photo albums is so full of love and has no place in their home. The only thing they retain of me is the false image they've devised of me that doesn't resemble the real me in the least.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing and all your hard work on this blog. I hope you still post from time to time when it suits you.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-12744867250244479772007-01-02T11:36:00.000-07:002007-01-02T11:36:00.000-07:00I would never have gotten such a thing from my Nmo...I would never have gotten such a thing from my Nmom either. My father is not a narcissist, although he has definitely assumed many of my Nmom's character traits through long years of association. <br /><br />Your descriptions of your Nmom here and in your blog show a much more unstable person than my own Nmom. Perhaps part of my Nmom's stability is due to the presence of my father. Who knows what she'd be on her own. <br /><br />My father has become an isolated and bitter man always assuming that people are out to screw him. My mother has nurtured this outlook for him because it has allowed her to control who in the family can be allowed in his life. My refusal to play by the family rules anymore has fed into his bitter world view. I'm nothing but an ungrateful, hateful person. Funny, that is how I would describe him.Anna Valerioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-67486358805838312122007-01-01T13:43:00.000-07:002007-01-01T13:43:00.000-07:00Wow, Anna. A blast from the past, as it were.
...Wow, Anna. A blast from the past, as it were. <br /><br />I don't think I'll ever get such a thing from my N-mom, because she has never gotten off her butt to make an album (or do anything else to honor memories, other than writing poison pen letters about them and bitch about who, if she only had a more peaceful life, she could take up poetry) ever in her life. <br /><br />She now lives such a near-feral existence (in terms of anything approximating culture or real contact, anyway) in her hotel/improvised assisted living setup that she doesn't even have much in the way of pictures --- of anyone. Not even her grandchildren (my brother's twin son and daughter), whom she always made such a fuss over. Her life is now a nearly entirely closed feedback loop. All her pictures, books, favorite paintings, etc., are packed away in storage or back at one of the three houses she owns but hasn't lived in for years.<br /><br />It's great to hear how little you were affected by it all, even thought your dad did such a thorough job of surgically removing references to you in his "gesture". Your daughter is lucky to have you and her cousins nearby to help her gain more insight into this bizarre situation.<br /><br />Happy new year!bonsaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05710936495001427190noreply@blogger.com