tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post115721061137045313..comments2024-03-16T14:19:24.563-06:00Comments on Narcissists Suck: The Narcissist is a CannibalAnna Valerioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02537877317873251678noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-50317385172714981032014-07-29T11:08:24.208-06:002014-07-29T11:08:24.208-06:00I've never come across an MN that wasn't a...I've never come across an MN that wasn't a "control freak!" "You MUST," You HAVE to" etc. continued into my adult life until NC. By the time I was a teen-ager I felt I was an "extension" (perfect word!) of MN "Mother," like an arm or a leg she just expected to do what she demanded, when she demanded and exacly how she demanded it done.<br />We live in such a PC world now people get their "tender sensibilities" hwrt when you use appropriate words. It's like having a bunch of kindergarteners collectively inhaling, oohing and aahing because you called the teacher a "bad word." Adults can use a dictionary. Some Realities are ugly. If that hwts yo feeblings, move on.<br />TW<br /> Tundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-19161710566241357362009-04-13T22:42:00.000-06:002009-04-13T22:42:00.000-06:00My husband's n-ex is a control freak and has extre...My husband's n-ex is a control freak and has extreme boundary issues. She made our lives miserable. She even sabotaged my husband's job. She was very manipulative about it, encouraging my husband's teen kids to help her by calling him with "urgent" issues, too. Most days he took 20 to 30 calls. If he didn't answer, they called other extensions and repeatedly disturbed his co-workers. We finally had to quit our jobs and move to another state just to make a living (and we aren't the only ones who moved away because of her either). Now she's bitter. Even though my husband still pays child support and more, she claims we "abandoned" the kids because we aren't close enough to help her with their daily needs any more. We feel bad for the kids, because we never really wanted to move. But our being there probably wasn't emotionally healthy for them anyway, since their mom was constantly using them as pawns in her campaigns of bitterness and hate and urging them to take "sides" in a war that only SHE was fighting. We weren't interested in doing battle with her, only staying out of her line of fire! And even though the kids eventually realized this, the constant hate their mom was hurling at us was taking a toll on them as well as us. I think this n-woman was surprised that we moved. I'm sure it never crossed her mind that we'd take charge of our lives and leave. She thought she could beat us down and make us hand over control of our lives to her. We obviously weren't able to go completely "NC," since there are still kids involved, and we still have a relationship with them. But we did the next best thing. And now the only contact my husband has with his n-ex is in writing. My advice in dealing with an n-ex is to get as far away as possible. Any contact you must make,such as issues over minor children, should be done in writing. Stick to the necessary business. Don't put an emotional face on anything you say. Never show your cards. Remember that EVERYTHING you do and say WILL be used against you. The less you say, the better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32237145.post-82902136973077572482008-03-12T18:58:00.000-06:002008-03-12T18:58:00.000-06:00Anna This is definetely a MUST READ for every Chr...Anna This is definetely a MUST READ for every Christian!!!jacquelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06889418946102340775noreply@blogger.com